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Over Coffee: How to not feel guilty when you DNF a book

Happy Saturday Bookworms!

As the weather keeps dropping, my intake of the life juice (coffee) keeps rising! A girl’s gotta keep warm in this frosty weather!

Coffee in my culture is something that brings people together, it’s what is brought out when guests/family are over. My family brews coffee about three times a day. It’s usually accompanied with ritz crackers or bread!

During the coffee drinking and cracker/bread eating, there is usually a some sort of discussion happening. Family gossip, neighborhood gossip, childhood memories/stories, etc etc etc.

So I thought, Why not bring it to the digital world? Discussion posts are not a common occurrence here in A Novel Idea and I should change that. Many book bloggers do them frequently and while I am in no way comparing myself to them…they look fun and I want to try it out!

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We’ve all done it. Fell out of love, became disillusioned, couldn’t bear to take it any longer. We called it quits before the end and the overwhelming guilt pestered us for days….

It’s never easy DNF-ing a book. It takes months, sometimes even years, to DNF without a care!

I struggle with it. I admit it. I rarely DNF a book but when I do….

I spend days feeling bad about it. I feel like I’m a bad reader, that I didn’t give the story a chance. Everyone else liked it, why dont I? Is it me? Am I too critical? Too boring? Why don’t I see what they see?

I’ve been working on lessening the guilt because in reality IT’S OKAY.

You don’t have to like it.

You don’t have to see what everyone else sees in it.

You aren’t boring nor too critical.

It’s just not for you.

It’s really that simple.

The things that I’ve been doing to help me lessen the guilt of DNF-ing and have so far minimized it:

  1. Affirm that it’s okay: You picked up the book because it seemed interesting, you read a ways in and gave it a chance. If it didn’t work, it didn’t work.
  2. List the things you did like and then the things you didn’t: Sometimes finding the things you did like lessen the feeling of guilt because it shows that while it wasn’t your cup of coffee overall, there were some things you enjoyed. So time wasn’t wasted in the grand scheme of things.
  3. Stop actively looking at reviews for the book. Seriously, stop.
  4. Stop comparing yourself to other readers: Everyone likes their coffee differently. Some don’t like it at all. You are you and they are them.
  5. Realize that you can move on to the next book quicker: So what if it didn’t work out…now you can read that other book you’ve been itching to read!
  6. Cry for a little while then remind yourself who you are.
  7. Scream
  8. Throw the book in the trash…

The last 3 aren’t real….BUT the point is that we should slowly learn not to take it too seriously. People stop reading things all the time! Recipes, Stop signs, this blog post, etc etc etc

If the book is meant to be, it will. If it’s not, then you have more time to find the ONE.

Do you feel guilty when DNF-ing a book? How do you deal with it?

Let me know in the comments below!